Fiancée shows up to Christmas breakfast 2 hours late, gets angry at fiancé for allowing people to eat before she arrived: 'It's unfair to punish everyone for one person's poor time management.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Dec 27, 2025 1:00 PM EST

Imagine going hungry for two hours because someone's girlfriend was late to Christmas?

How you manage lateness has a lot to do with what kind of family you grew up in. Your family either tolerated lateness or they didn't. For example, let's say your family wanted to see a movie at 2:30 and invited Aunt Beth to come along. If Aunt Beth hadn't shown up by 2:30 or even 2:50 and wasn't responding to phone calls or texts, what would your family do? Would they go into the theater and text her to meet y'all in the seats, or would they miss the original screening, buying tickets for the 4:15 show after she finally showed up at 3:30? The latter family tolerates lateness; the former does not. 

If you grew up in a family that would wait around for people with poor time management skills, you probably have no tolerance for late people in your adult life. In fact, there's a good chance you show up chronically early to events just because you hate waiting around for other people so much. If that's you, I don't blame you at all. People schedule events at certain times for a reason. If we're supposed to be having dinner at 8, you're going to show up hungry enough for dinner at 8. If your dinner guests don't show up until 9:30, you're going to be crabby and starving by the time you actually eat, and the meal will no longer be a pleasant experience. 

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  • Most people do not wait hours to eat just because one person is late. The woman in this story should know that, but she was shocked when her lateness was not tolerated on Christmas morning. 

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  • My fiancée is furious at me for telling my family to start eating Christmas breakfast without her; Am I the bad guy?

    Every year we have a family Christmas breakfast as part of our celebration, and this year it was organised for 11:00am. My partner was aware what time it was planned for, but was running almost 2 hours late. I
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  • told my family to go ahead and eat (as they had spent the morning preparing and cooking everything), and said I would eat with my partner when she arrived.
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  • However now I'm completely in the doghouse for excluding her from breakfast, and that I'm an asshole for inviting her if they weren't even going to wait.
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  • My opinion is that it's unfair to punish everyone for one person's poor time management, but I'm curious if I'm the jerk here or the logical one?
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  • hokeypokey59 Missing info: Why was she 2 hours late? Why didn't she call you or you call her? Performing emergency surgery? Car trouble? Last minute shopping? Waiting in line at Starbucks?
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  • OP TheRealGreen-Onions No emergency, no children, nothing but packing an overnight bag was required. I left and drove separately to be on time because she did not want to leave as early as me.
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  • Impressive Spray_704 She excluded herself by being late. She is not only rude, but also disrespectful and self absorbed
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  • Voodoopulse 13.00 isn't breakfast it's lunch, she needs to pipe down
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  • pumpkins21 I have an ex-friend (there's a reason why she's an ex-friend) who told me once that she was at the airport about to go on vacation to Prague and decided to order coffee from Starbucks... while the plane was boarding. She was still waiting when they had finished. I can't remember if they gave her one or two courtesy pages, but they basically told her that if she didn't get there within two mins, they would be departing without her. She left without getting her coffee and gave me a look
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  • lift_ride_repeat A 15 min wait is mandatory, 30 min would be really kind. 2 hours GTFO. NTA.
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  • FiberKitty NTA She excluded herself. It sucks that she's trying to blame you for the consequences of her own actions.
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  • Fragrant_Spray Your partner's expectation was that your entire family would sit around and wait for two F'ing hours and watch breakfast get cold because she wasn't on time? She's freaking deranged and something's seriously wrong with your relationship if you think it's possible you're the asshole here. NTA.
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  • JJQuantum NTA but your partner is an extremely inconsiderate one.
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  • gastropodia42 Your fiance is the ass for expecting everyone to wait for her.
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